Love and Marriage

I thought this was an interesting article and one that stirs the feelings of divorce. Statistics say that in our country the average divorce rate is 50%! That means half of married America gets a divorce. All I have to ask is what happend to our country? Do the words "till death do us part" not mean anything? "For better or for worse" " In sickness and in health." Now there are many justifiable reasons for getting a divorce. In the article " A tale of two Divorces" by Anne Roiphe, Roiphe divorces her husband because he is a monster and doesn't appreciate her at all. If your in a marriage that can't be saved, like Roiphe's, I beleive it better to get a divorce rather than follow the example of Roiphe's mother who stayed with her husband and was miserable. But divorces like these can be prevented starting with the preparation of getting married. I agree with Roiphe when she says " In America we place so much emphasis on romance that we barley notice the other essentials of marriage and child rearing." This concept is very important and is probably a big reason why people get a divorce.
I beleive that one way to prevent a divorce in your life is to do the hard preparation before the marriage. A lot of people nowadays butcher the term "love" and meet someone and after one day get married in a cheap white church in Vegas. These usually don't work out. Preparing for your "soul mate" takes a lot of hard work from both ends. It is important to love yourself first before you love someone else, because how can you love someone else if you don't even love yourself? One of my favorite quotes goes like this: If you jump into a relationship without first doing the hard work of becoming your full and complete self every relationship you have will end in disastor. This takes work from both the husband and wife.
Also the attitude of the couple should be that of severing not of wanting. A husband should think about what he can do for his wife and not what she can do for him and vice versa. Its not 50-50 its 100-100, both need to do their part by serving each other.